Enabling

[MaeinTX]

This is so hard for me with S. He is in 1st grade this year.

I *think* the school is enabling him to be too dependent on them. It is such a fine line isn't it?

i.e. The car riders line up in their classrooms and then are walked out. I am always standing right near the sidewalk by the door they come out. I do this not only for S but for L-kindergarten. N is usually out first and he stops and waits in our spot- even if I am not there (hasn't happened yet but he did last year) and then he talks to them or holds their hands until I get there.

I want S to be allowed to walk out in the car rider line. His teacher is holding him back alone, holding his hand, and walking him out.

This happened at the a.m. drop off yesterday too. The teacher helping students out of their cars stopped the line, grabbed his hand and walked him in. All the while his little brother, L gets to go in alone. They all go the gym and sit with their class. N knows (and does a very good job btw!) to watch and make sure his brothers go to their class groups before he goes to his group.

I know S is capable of these 2 things. I wouldn't mind if they watch him but holding his hand ??? and seperating him from the group ???

Please pray for me as I approach this with the school. To my knowledge, there has been no issues of him taking off or anything like that.

[FabTXMomma]

Get information first. Find out if there is a history at school of behavior that you're not aware of. Sometimes they just react without taking the time to clue the parents in - not to be malicious, but just b/c they forget.

Gently remind them that he needs to be pushed to be independent as much as possible. All kids do. We're making adults here, ya know?

Good luck!

[DevNAbbyMom]

I would ask if they've had incident or if it's common procedure. I would definitely want to know why they are singling him out though. If you know as a mother (and we know our kids best) that he can handle doing this on his own, find out if they will allow him to do this. I would be questioning it too.

[Cadam]

So I think you just need to let them know that you think he would do fine and you want to encourage his independence. They may not have even considered if he was capable of it. If they are still concerned then ask for a trial of a week or something. Keep your eyes out for other things they may automatically think he can't deal with. They are still getting to know him and probably just being overly careful.