More prayers for me this time

[2lplvr]

Originally Posted by mommyof2monkeys+princess

Thanks so much. I have not asked to do marriage counseling as we usually talk everything through so we have never really needed one. Now I have talked to him told him not crying is a bad thing that it means I am moving further apart from our relationship that I need him to show me that it matters to him and for him to reach out after what we just went through with him leashing out on me for something I had nothing to do with. His response was that he is doing the same thing he has last 2 yrs and that is all there is to it.

We are not fighting but we are not talking either. He is small talking. Honestly I am just answering his questions but not offering up conversation myself. I am

Tammy

If you can do counseling, look into it. It is normal for people to change over time and simply having the tools to communicate effectively will be worth it.

Detachment is bad, not expressing hurt and anger are bad when they are the appropriate emotions.

Don't settle, this noncummunicative state sets you both up for someone (anyone) willing to actually talk to you and listen to you.
Don't allow yourselves to get snared by that. Be proactive. Bad stuff can get worse very quickly. Do the work to find the joy in being married.

[Yakky]

Originally Posted by 2lplvr

If you can do counseling, look into it. It is normal for people to change over time and simply having the tools to communicate effectively will be worth it.

Detachment is bad, not expressing hurt and anger are bad when they are the appropriate emotions.

Don't settle, this noncummunicative state sets you both up for someone (anyone) willing to actually talk to you and listen to you.
Don't allow yourselves to get snared by that. Be proactive. Bad stuff can get worse very quickly. Do the work to find the joy in being married.

i'm with 2lp, honey... while your emotions are normal given the state of your marriage.... withdrawing from your hubby isn't gonna fix anything. and while right now you probably don't even care.... that's ambivalence... and it's again, just one phase of the grieving process.

you can't fix your dh. you can't make him do anything. but you can focus straight on getting yourself and keeping yourself healthy.

[Kristine]

Originally Posted by Yakky

i'm with 2lp, honey... while your emotions are normal given the state of your marriage.... withdrawing from your hubby isn't gonna fix anything. and while right now you probably don't even care.... that's ambivalence... and it's again, just one phase of the grieving process.

you can't fix your dh. you can't make him do anything. but you can focus straight on getting yourself and keeping yourself healthy.

Agreeing w/these wise ladies sweetie. I have btdt w/my dh over the years. Remember that feelings are valid, but they are just feelings. They are not necessarily 'truth'. What I mean by that is that feelings are based on emotions. If you are anything like me, you feel a little more powerful when you withdraw out of anger. Trust me though, it becomes an unhealthy cycle in your marriage, and eventually when you don't get the response you want from that, you will become numb. That is NOT a good place to be. It is much better to get some counseling and communication skills w/your hubby.

Women and men so often come at things from completely different perspectives. My dh has told me that men are simple creatures.

Praying for you~

[Mom2JTSJ]

Originally Posted by Kristine

Agreeing w/these wise ladies sweetie. I have btdt w/my dh over the years. Remember that feelings are valid, but they are just feelings. They are not necessarily 'truth'. What I mean by that is that feelings are based on emotions. If you are anything like me, you feel a little more powerful when you withdraw out of anger. Trust me though, it becomes an unhealthy cycle in your marriage, and eventually when you don't get the response you want from that, you will become numb. That is NOT a good place to be. It is much better to get some counseling and communication skills w/your hubby.

Women and men so often come at things from completely different perspectives. My dh has told me that men are simple creatures.

Praying for you~

Very wise words.

Know that you are being prayed for daily.

[joy2bmom]